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Today Was A Good Day…
Me and the homies, McClary & Finley, linked up and hit Wing Stop so we could get some wings and brews and discuss LetsTalkAbout.us. I took notes on everything that was said and there were some real powerful views that were expressed that I don’t think black women are aware of and that’s the purpose of LetsTalkAbout.us, sharing perspectives on a common topic which is the relationships between black men and women both romantic and plutonic. Right now I’m organising everything until I get it presentable and then I’ll share with the world. I’m excited because I think it will open eyes and spark the conversation.
After Wing Stop Finley convinced me to get a pedicure with him and continue the conversation and man that brother dropped some jewels of knowledge. McClary had some great views as well and luckily when we got back to the dorms I got to record some of his perspective. After that asian lady blessed my feet as well as my soul we got some frozen yogurt. That shit was sooooo swangin! This Texas weather was on pretty good behaviour.
Overall it was a brilliant day and I felt like I grew through our dialogue. My brothers have their heads on the swivel. Bout to watch School Daze (yes, AGAIN!) and then go to sleep so I can link up with my bredren in the morning for breakfast and so I can record some more of their perspectives so I can later share with everybody. I’m also going to give my perspective tomorrow then I’m going to ask everybody on here for there’s. This is the most meaningful project and research I have ever conducted.
"Close your eyes & imagine the best version of you possible. That’s who you really are, let go of any part of you that doesn’t believe it."
A woman I can be myself with.
Never feel like I gotta change myself to fit a standard she likes because I feel like the way I carry myself isn’t good enough.
A woman I can just come home to after work, lay next to and hold and go to sleep and not say anything at all.
Go to the mall and walk around holding hands saying nothing.
Cuddle up on the couch and watch movies.
Cook for each other.
Comfort each other in hard times.
Laugh at silly shit.
have our own code language no one understands but us.
I want that and feel I need all that.
I want a woman I can one day introduce as my wife and can one day be the mother of our children together.
One day I pray this all comes true and much much more.
i see that so often in black folks who have divorced themselves from black culture and black people in an effort to fit into a mostly homogeneous white environment.
they turn into these really over zealous silencers when it comes to racism. they will literally go more rabid on a black person who brings up race than your average white person would. just because they are trying sooo hard to over-compensate.
and i do feel bad about that. i can imagine how hard that must be to be constantly in an environment where you doubtlessly deal with microaggressions although you can’t call them out because that would turn you from the token white person into the bad black person.
but really, their situation doesn’t have anything to do with me. so keep me out of it! don’t bring that self-hate my way.
How can you NOT reblog this?!
We need more of these!
S/O to the Ques for this one!
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